{"id":2625,"date":"2011-09-07T08:33:03","date_gmt":"2011-09-07T08:33:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.planetofsuccess.com\/blog\/?p=2625"},"modified":"2020-02-07T12:30:12","modified_gmt":"2020-02-07T12:30:12","slug":"stop-worrying-about-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.planetofsuccess.com\/blog\/stop-worrying-about-failure\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Worrying about Failure"},"content":{"rendered":"

All my life long I was afraid about the events that might happen in the future; I worried about the outcome of my actions and their negative results for my life in the future and I also questioned if I could cope with the challenges I was facing back then. <\/span>Please don\u2019t get me wrong; I wasn\u2019t a scared-cat at all and my worries never started to take control over my life or reduced my quality of living, nevertheless, negative thoughts remained inside me and often kept me awake for hours in the night; thinking about things I couldn\u2019t control or influence anyways. <\/span>I was worried about many things, from absolutely minor things such as messing up in school and flunking school (when I was 9<\/em>), towards worries related to my former job, such as committing major errors with drastic consequences for me (losing my job<\/em>) or the involved \u201ccustomer\u201d I was responsible for, when I was approx. 19- 20. <\/span><\/p>\n

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In general, I would say, most of the time these worries can be attributed to only one thing: my fear of failure<\/strong>. All my worries and fears had only this one thing in common: the fear of the possibility of failure.<\/span><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t worried about writing bad marks in school being concerned about what my teachers and friends would think about me; I didn\u2019t fear the possible punishments for bad marks (maybe because I never was punished for bad marks, luckily); I simply was fearful of failing in school, failing classes and being separated from all my best friends. I simply did not want to be labeled as a failure, with my 9 years of age back then.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is no need to worry about failure!<\/span><\/h3>\n

Suddenly, something became very clear to me when I was facing my darkest hour, at age of 21. There was simply no need for me to continue worrying as I had drawn for me personally a remarkable conclusion<\/em> (later explained) that would change my life from that point onwards.<\/span><\/p>\n

I accepted failure<\/strong> as simply that what it is: an inevitable challenge<\/strong> that I would have to face every once in a while in my life. Failure is an omnipresent part of my life, my past, and my present; and each failure helped me to become the man I am nowadays. Every failure was a painful experience and knocked me down in the short run, but in the long run, it helped me to do better in the future, avoid similar mistakes and honestly, most of my failures opened new possibilities and promising chances for me and allowed me to change my life and start over again. Before I forget,\u2026 the \u201cremarkable conclusion<\/em>\u201d I talked about earlier was that I recognized that the only way I could avoid any kinds of failures entirely would be by not even trying, which might as well be comparable with not having lived at all. The attempt to avoid failure down to the ground would cause the biggest failures of all, the irreversible mistake of not having tried at all.<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

If I was an old man, I would always prefer to choose to laugh about the awkward mistakes and errors I committed and poeticize about the biggest failures in my life and what amazingly refreshing opportunities these brought into my life, rather than having to worry about \u201cwhat could have happened<\/em>\u201d, if I would have tried. I do not want to reflect on my entire life and notice all the great opportunities I\u2019ve missed, the glorious moments that could have taken place, the amazing things I would have experienced and the exciting chances I\u2019ve missed, just because I was worrying about the possibility of failing<\/em>. Not a single second do I want to spend with acknowledging to myself that I squandered all the big opportunities that I was given in life, as this would be more painful for me than actually having failed.<\/span><\/p>\n

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“Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, ‘It might have been.’<\/strong>“<\/em> ~ John Greenleaf Whittier<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

 There is no necessity of being afraid to fail at all, as in most cases it might just scare you off from doing it; the decision between success and failure lies often beyond your own control when you did everything possible and made above average efforts to accomplish your targeted goal. Nevertheless, you should keep in mind that failure is the logical reason for being lazy and it might also occur when you\u2019re not willing to do \u201cwhatever necessary\u201d, so make sure to erase as many factors that could lead to a defeat.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nonetheless, every one of us is going to fail every once in a while, so why worrying about it anyways?<\/strong> When looking at the biographies of extraordinarily successful people you will see that the enumerations of their failures outweigh all their accomplishments, successes and valuable contributions by far.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here are some famous failures:<\/span><\/em><\/h4>\n