Do you want to make that exceptional woman in your life feel extraordinarily special? Do you want to show her how unique she is and how much you appreciate her? Do you want to show your affection, but struggle to find the right ideas? It’s not at all difficult to make a girl feel special. All it takes is a couple of genuine ideas to show your affection. The following will present you a huge list of creative ideas to let her know you truly care about her. Discover 100 exciting ways to make a girl feel special. These simple yet effective tips will definitely make her feel truly special and deeply loved.
Unfortunately, most people tend to forget that a healthy relationship takes a lot of work. As a result of this negligence, couples who once held a deep affection for each other slowly grow apart. It’s a sad thing to see this happen, but it doesn’t have to be this way. By taking the first step and showing how much you appreciate your girl, you can initiate the most wondrous outcomes for the relationship. Not only will your woman feel great about herself, but she will also return the favor by showing her affection to you.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
When it comes to making her feel special, most guys think they have to work the most astonishing miracles to show affection. But instead of showing her how special she is once a year, it’s all about the little things that will truly make her feel special. Most underestimate the effect little surprises can have. Making a girl feel special is not about letting her know you truly care about every once in a while. It’s all about showing her how unique she is on a daily basis.
Let’s jump right into the little (and big) surprises to let her know you hold her in the highest esteem.
100 Unique Ways to Make a Girl Feel Special
Here’s what you can do to show that special woman in your life that she’s the most precious wonder in your life. You can consider this list as a vast toolbox of inspiring and unique ideas that you can implement on a daily basis to make her feel special. They will not only communicate your affection, but they can also have a surprising impact upon your relationship with the woman of your life. By showing your affection on a daily basis, you’ll be able to deepen the unique bond between two of you.
1. Don’t just tell her she’s beautiful; make her feel beautiful!
Many times, it’s not about what you say, it’s all about communicating the message in a unique (non-verbal) way. You can tell your girlfriend how beautiful she is as much as you want, but the harsh reality is that anyone can do that. And it’s also quite likely that she’s already heard that statement a thousand times from family, friends and former boyfriends. Just think about it, if people kept on complimenting you on your great looks since you’ve been a small child, would it still feel special to hear that from your girlfriend over and over again? Most likely not.
Making her feel special cannot be done by simply telling her how beautiful she is. Instead of just stating the obvious, give your very best to actually MAKE her feel beautiful. Let her feel deep in her heart that she’s the most beautiful woman you’ve ever met in your life. Make her feel beautiful by your actions, especially when she’s not having a good time. When she’s sick, when she’s having a hangover, when she’s wearing no makeup, when she’s tired; let her know and feel in these situations how beautiful she is. It’s not just about what you say, also about the way you look at her, treat her, talk to her and touch her.
2. Randomly leave notes with sweet messages
Leaving a note for her to find is a great way of communicating your affection and making her feel special, even when you’re not there. All women love surprises, and leaving a unique note that she unexpectedly finds will remarkably brighten her day. Plus, it’s a super easy way to show your affection. All it takes is a couple of seconds to create a special note that comes from the heart. Hide the message in her lunchbox or place it on her fruit juice, bicycle, car, shoes or anywhere else.
3. Light a few candles and cook for her
You don’t have to be the most talented cook to surprise her with a self-made candlelight dinner. Just dim the lights, get a few candles and find a delicious recipe that can be easily prepared. It’s not about cooking a five course menu that takes ages to prepare. It’s all about surprising her with delicious food and candlelight atmosphere.
4. Be honest with her
Most guys falsely assume that making her feel special does not leave any room for honesty. After all, how should you treat her like a precious gift while simultaneously being totally honest with her? Don’t these two contradict each other? Contrary to popular belief, honesty and showing affection do not have to contradict each other. Only by being fully honest with her, you can truly show how much you care about her. It will show her that you hold her in such a high esteem to be honest and straightforward with her. Also, honesty is quite a rare quality that women highly appreciate. Being honest with her, however, does not mean that you hurt her feelings. Choose your words wisely and in a respectful manner. Honesty is about showing respect and dignity, not about hurting other people.
5. Compliment her in an honest and unique manner
Usually, those special compliments that come right from the heart are the most effective ones. Telling your girl how beautiful she is and how much you like her eyes might not make her feel that special at all. Yes, it’s nice to hear, but also totally generic. If she hears it all the time, chances are high she might not even really appreciate it.
When you give her a compliment, do it in a unique and special manner. Don’t just tell her that you like her eyes, tell her what you feel when you look into her eyes. How time seemingly seems to stop, how you forget the entire world, how the sun starts shining when you look into her sparkling eyes and how you entirely lose yourself in this vast ocean of happiness her eyes resemble.
6. Listen to her, care about her well-being
Almost all women are looking for a partner with the ability to just listen. It’s not a coincidence that most women continuously state they want someone who can listen. Certainly, most guys know that, but do we really understand what it means? Often, we simply interpret it falsely. We might say, “Surely, I listen to her all the time and then I tell her exactly what she has to do to solve her problems.” But sometimes, women simply want someone who genuinely listens to her concerns, problems and anything else they have to say. Not someone who tells her what to do and how to solve these issues. Just someone who actually listens, perhaps without even saying anything.
Make her feel special by taking yourself time to listen. Care about her complaints and just show her that you are there when she needs you.
7. Surprise her with random acts of kindness
Showing your girl how much you care about her is fantastic. Doing it when it’s not expected is even better. Surprise her by showing her your affection in unexpected moments. Break the traditional routines of your relationships and show her how special she is when she expects it the least. Grab her gently when she’s preparing dinner, whisper a compliment about her delicious cooking skills into her ear and kiss her on the neck. Whatever helps to surprise her and show your affection is just fine. Send her unexpected messages. Surprise her with a breakfast in bed. Be creative!
8. Kiss her more often
What better way to show your affection than to kiss your girlfriend? It’s something that many couples start to neglect as the relationship matures. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Kiss her when you meet her, when you leave her and just randomly when you’re together. And not just the lips. Kiss her neck, her nose or even her forehead. Whatever is within reach.
A kiss on the cheeks is such a simple thing, but can communicate your affection in a powerful way. Just show her how much you care about her with these unexpected gestures.
9. Take her out, introduce excitement and fun
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you should stop dating your girlfriend. Quite the contrary, show her how special she is by regularly taking her out for a date. Go to exciting places and just enjoy yourself. What woman doesn’t love to be taken out? Show her your affection by planning an exciting trip full of surprises and adventures. By making her an integral part of your life, you can subtly make her feel special. At the same time, making a girl feel special also means that you show interest in what she’s doing, her hobbies and interests. It doesn’t have to mean that you have to love these things, but she will definitely appreciate it when you take an interest in her life.
10. Tell her how much you value her for the person she is
Show her through words and actions that you fully accept her the way she is. Even more so, tell her how much you love and appreciate all her faults and shortcomings. You can make a girl feel really special by showing her that you love her for all her imperfections, not in spite of them.
11. Surprise her with flowers
Surprising your girlfriend with some flowers is such a simple, yet super sweet thing you can do to make her feel special. Give her flowers when you’re picking her up for a date. Or leave some flowers for her to find.
12. Show her what an integral part of your life she is
13. Have the courage to be vulnerable
Most men dare not to show vulnerabilities and weaknesses. In long-term relationships, however, this can come across as not trusting your partner. Show her your affection by letting her partake in your (emotional) life. Have the courage to be yourself, with all your strengths and weaknesses.
This is not about becoming overly emotional and whining about your greatest fears. Quite the contrary, it’s simply about letting your girlfriend become part of your thoughts. Show her what you’re excited about and what frustrates or even scares you. Most women appreciate this kind of honesty and prefer living with a genuine man who has faults and imperfections than living with someone insincere who puts up a mask.
14. Show her that you need her and that you cherish her presence
15. Make her part of your life
You can tell her how special she is as much as you want, if your actions do not reflect your words, she won’t feel any better. Don’t just tell her that she’s special; show her by letting her become a part of your life. Show her that you’re thinking about her when you’re at work. Let her know that you just came across about this brilliant new song of her favorite musician. Remember the things she holds in the highest esteem and occasionally surprise her with your knowledge about these things.
16. Have fun with her, be stupid and do things that make you laugh
17. Squeeze her gently and tell her how much you appreciate spending time with her
18. Be there when she needs you
It’s relatively easy to be standing at her side in good times. But you will make her feel truly special by also being there for her during times of great despair and pain. These are the times when she needs you the most, so give your very best to accompany her through these periods. Light her mood, ease her pain and give her the necessary strength to overcome the difficulties.
19. Express in detail what it is that makes her so special
20. Write her a love letter
Surprising the special girl in your life with a love letter is not only romantic, but will also show your deep affection. It’s a great way to make her feel special and to tell her in detail all the things you love about her.
21. Take her into your arms when she is afraid
22. Walk with her hand-in-hand and gently stroke her with your thumb
23. Don’t neglect her when you’re out together with your friends
24. When you’re out together, always introduce her to all your acquaintances
25. Remember the names of her friends
Remember #6 of this list (“Listen to her”)? This also includes remembering the various names of all her friends. Not only will she continuously tell you about her friends and what happens in their life, but she will also notice if you actually listen to what she’s telling you. Remembering the names of the friends is a great way to avoid referring to them as “the one with the long hair” and “the one with glasses.” Even further, it will show her that you’re actively seeking to be a part of her life and that you’re interested in her life.
26. Give her comfort when she’s not feeling well
27. Develop enthusiasm about her interests
28. Ask her for her opinion
29. Discuss decisions with her before meeting them
30. Support her in the accomplishment of her dreams and goals
31. Send her a little text (or voice) message
Let her know that you’re thinking about her by showing your affection with a little text message. It’s an easy way to give her a nice surprise and to brighten her day. Also, it shows her that you’re thinking about her when she’s away.
32. Appreciate her intelligence, intuition and wisdom
32. Encourage her to teach you something
33. Give her a no-strings-attached massage
It isn’t too big of a secret that men might have ulterior motives when giving their girlfriends a massage. Meaning the massage is not given for the joy of helping your girlfriend relax, but it comes with strings (or hopes) attached.
Show her your affection by massaging her neck and shoulders after a long day at work, without attaching any strings. Do it for the sole purpose of helping her ease tensioned muscles. She’ll definitely appreciate that you also care about her body in a non-sexual way.
34. Make her an active part in your plans and dreams
35. Cherish her as a woman
36. Make compromises and show her that this isn’t something you’d do for everyone
37. Always treat her with respect and dignity, even when you’re angry
38. Don’t pressure her into things she doesn’t want
Pressuring your girlfriend into doing something she absolutely dislikes or doesn’t want to do is never a great idea. Not only will it create resentment, but it’s also a great way of showing her that her preferences and affections are of no concern to you.
39. Value what she has to say
40. Respect her opinion
41. Share your feelings with her
Giving your girlfriend an outlook on to your emotional landscape is certainly not easy. Most men are not at all used to share their feelings, especially not with their girlfriend or wife. But it’s a great way to show her that you are comfortable around her and that you trust her to the highest degree. Sharing your feelings does not necessarily mean that you start wearing your heart on your sleeve. Just open up a little and tell her how you’re feeling inside every once in a while.
42. Don’t treat her like your maid, clean up after yourself
43. Initiate her into exciting secrets that only you know
44. Make her breakfast in bed
45. Show her that you fully trust her
46. Set relationship goals with her
47. Take her problems and complaints serious
48. Show interest in keeping the relationship alive and healthy
49. Don’t complain when she takes you shopping
50. Be thoughtful and grab her something, too
Remember that feeling when one of your friends stopped by at your flat/house with a delicious burger or the most amazing slice of pizza without bringing you something as well? Don’t be that guy, especially not with your girlfriend. When you grab something in the convenience store, be sure to get her something as well. It’s just a small gesture, but it shows that you care about her and that you are thoughtful about her needs. She might not even need it, but it’s the gesture that counts.
51. Don’t stop kissing her just because you’re in public
Most women absolutely love it when you’re showing your affection in public. All it takes is to show your appreciation with a little kiss every once in a while. Just let it naturally happen and show the world how proud you are with this special lady.
52. Let her know she’s the one you want to conquer the world with
53. Conquer the world with her (in a non-political fashion)
54. Never compare her to other women
Comparing her to other women surely isn’t a great idea to make her feel special. Be sure to avoid this trap. It’s not even necessary to tell her that she’s “the best of all others” – girls don’t seem to like the thought of you being out with others in the past. It might make them feel like they’re just one of these girls for you.
If you really want to make her feel special, don’t tell her that she’s the best; let her know through your actions that she’s the only one. Not the best one, the only one!
55. Don’t eyeball other women when you’re with your girl
56. Show patience
If she’s the one, be patient with her. Patience will not only help you form a strong relationship with her, but it will also give her the necessary room her own unfoldment. Accept her imperfections and be patient about them.
57. Help her up when life pushes her to the ground
58. Respect her wishes
Showing respect to your girlfriend’s wishes and interests has nothing to do with sacrificing your own. Quite the contrary, it’s simply a gesture of mutual respect.
59. Tell her something which you never did before
60. Let her know she’s the first thing that comes to mind when you wake up
61. Go the extra mile for her
62. Show her that you don’t take being with her for granted
63. Have the sincerity to apologize for mistakes
64. Pay attention to the little things
Don’t let the little things go unnoticed. There are so many little things you can use to show your affection. Paying attention to them can make all the difference.
Pay attention to the little remarks she makes. Clean the table after eating. Hold her hand when you’re out together. Take note of her dislikes and respect them. Be thoughtful and show patience.
65. Tell her why she makes you a better man
66. Treat her family as your own family
67. Remember the little details
In addition to paying attention to the little things, remembering the little details is also a great way to show affection. Take some notes about important dates, for instance when you’ve had your first date or when the two of you became engaged. Surprise your girlfriend on these days with some thoughtful gifts or simply with some of the little details you know about her, for instance her favorite love song. Showing that you’ve remembered these details is a fantastic way to show how important she is to you.
68. Show her that you feel comfortable around her
69. Tell her she means the world to you
70. Defend her against others
71. Have the courage to tell her when she’s wrong
72. Notice the little changes and compliment her about them
73. Encourage her to spend time with her friends
74. Ignore your smartphone when you’re with her
75. Pay attention to her likes and dislikes
76. Be a gentleman
Chivalry is an excellent way to make your girl feel special. Not only will it show her that you have excellent manners, but it’s also a great way of communicating your respect. There are so many small things you can do in this area to show her what she means to you. But usually, it’s the small things that matters most. Holding her to door, letting her order first, or opening the car door for her doesn’t require much effort. Doing it, however, shows her that you are willing to put in effort into the relationship.
77. Show an interest in her hobbies and the things she values
78. Tell her how much you like the way she smells
79. Let her know that she’s your source of inspiration
80. Wait for her before you start watching your favorite TV shows
81. Brighten her day with a little gift that comes from the heart
82. Tell her that she motivates you to strive for greatness
83. Allow her to be childish
84. Let her know that you love listening to her voice
85. Spend weeks or even months to create a handcrafted gift for her birthday
86. Explore her personality
87. Ask her lots of questions
Don’t just ask her things out of curiosity. Ask her all kinds of questions to discover who she truly is. Take an interest in her childhood, the way she grew up and her family. Let her speak about her dreams and motivations. Find out what it is that makes her jump out of bed each day. People just love to talk about themselves and their life, so showing an interest in your girlfriend’s life is a great way of making her feel special. After all, you wouldn’t be interested in these things if she wasn’t special, right?
88. Don’t use the guilt trip to get what you want
89. Allow her to (occasionally) win the competition/argument
90. Take her criticism serious
91. Know how to lift her mood
92. Never use her as an excuse
93. Be romantic
Even if you find romance cheesy, do something romantic for her.
94. Forgive her
95. Give your best to get along with her friends, even if they give you a hard time
96. Be attentive to her needs
97. Give her the space she needs
98. Don’t rush her
99. Make her feel safe
By caring and protecting her physical and emotional well-being, you show how deeply you value her. It’s not just about protecting her physical safeness, but also about offering a safe haven she can trust.
100. Tell her that you love her with words and actions
Showing your woman your affection and making her feel special is really not difficult. All it takes is a thoughtful gesture that shows your appreciation. It’s not even necessary to buy the most expensive gifts or spend a lot of money on other things to make her feel special. Quite the contrary, all it takes is to invest some time in doing the little things that show her how much you care about her. And always remember, actions speak much louder than words, so make sure to not just tell her what you feel about her. Show her through your actions what you feel for her!
I hope you enjoyed these 100 ways to make a girl feel special.